Smith, Harold Ivan
A mother’s death can make a shambles of schedules, priorities, agendas, commitments, and, sometimes, even our most important relationships. A mother’s last breath inevitably changes us. Drawing on his own experience of loss, as well as those of others, Harold Ivan Smith guides readers through their grief, from the process of dying through the acts of remembering and honoring a mother after her death.
I bought two copies of this book one for myself and one for my sister following the death of our mother on 3-14-06. Our mom got suddenly ill and passed away very quickly and suddenly. We were left saddened and lost and looking for something to read to help us through this awful time.
We both felt this book was amazing. We wern’t alone in our feeling and the insight is amazing. I am now ordering 4 additional copies for my other siblings-this truly is a MUST READ.
The line in the book that has stuck with me day in and day out is “my mom taught me everything-except how to live without her”-Dacie Sims. This is exactly how I feel. If you or someone you care for is grieving the death of their mother-get this book.
“A mother’s death can make a shambles of schedules, priorities, agendas, commitments, and, sometimes, even our most important relationships. A mother’s last breath inevitably changes us.”
With these words, Harold Ivan Smith assures readers that whatever we may feel and experience following the death of our mother, is normal. In the introduction, Smith states that “as a grief educator, I thought I was prepared for my mother’s death.” I was hooked from this one line. I am also a healthcare provider with a subspecialty in end-of-life issues and bereavement. Although I expected my mother’s death to rock my world, I was stunned by my experience. I thought I would cope more effectively than I have.
Smith talks about a terminal diagnosis or illness where death is anticipated, the actual death, and the grief process following a mother’s death. The book is well-organized, with many quotes included.