Types of Grief
Living/caring for loved one with terminal illness or dementia Anticipatory grief is a time of shifting from no hope to regaining hope that your loved one will improve and/or survive. Because the experience is emotionally and physically exhausting the quality of your personal interactions can ultimately suffer. Good books, guided imagery audios and films can help you to cope and deepen your relationship with a loved one.
Grieving the recent loss of a loved one The initial stages of grief can cause you to feel disoriented, anxious, afraid, and angry—and for good reason: you are suddenly without the person who helped define who you are —be it a spouse, close friend, parent, or child. While it is not a time for psychotherapy, it is a good time to: join a grief and loss group visit with a grief counselor read the best books on grief listen to encouraging audios and watch movies about how others survive the death of a loved one.
CAN’T, WON’T, RUSHED PAST, OR STUCK
If you have: delayed/denied your grief, attempted to rush past it, or gotten stuck and are unable to function months after your loss, it is advisable to work one-on-one with a trained grief counselor. To help the counseling process, it is wise to read about the different kinds of grief, listen to guided imagery meditations, and watch films to better understand how others’ have handled a similar experience.
Starting Over: Rebuilding a life after loss There is a myth that after you make it through all of the “firsts” of the first year after loss, the second year is easier. In reality the second year is different but not necessarily easier. Tough questions beg to be answered: “Will I ever be happy again?” “What am I going to do with the rest of my life?” “Do I have to settle for whatever comes my way?” The second year is a perfect time to read, listen to audios and watch movies to motivate you to rebuild your life—as you move from grieving the loss of your loved one to reclaiming your life without their physical presence.
GRIEVING THE LOSS OF ONE’S OWN LIFE
You know you are going to die but since you don’t know the exact date it is easy to ignore the eventuality—until you receive a terminal diagnosis. Suddenly what once happened to others becomes personal, and you are forced to develop a new relationship with yourself and grieve the loss of your life–but you don’t know where to begin. With guidance from our recommended books, audios and films—1) your fears and doubts can be addressed, 2) lingering resentments can be resolved, and 3) a sense of purpose and affection can develop with your family & friends.