Learn about the distinctive way grief is sometimes expressed and dealt with when a more “masculine” mode is employed (which may happen with either gender, by the way). “When a Man Faces Grief: 12 Practical Ideas to Help You Heal from Loss” is written in a concise format for the griever himself. “A Man You Know Is Grieving: 12 Ideas to Help Him Heal from loss” is written for those who wish to understand, validate, and support the more masculine mode of grief.
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When a Man Faces Grief and A Man You Know is Grieving are actually two short books (31 pages each) combined into one volume full of wisdom and information.
Men and women tend to have different grieving styles. In When a Man Faces Grief, authors Thomas R. Golden and James E. Miller offer a brief discussion of the masculine grieving style and how it differs from what has traditionally been thought of as healthy grief.
They then go on to offer twelve concrete steps men need to take on the path to recovery. Some of their suggestions include, “Find your strength,” and “Approach your grief by way of your strength.” They also encourage male grievers to find action-oriented ways to tap into and express their grief.
The flip side of the book, A Man You Know Is Grieving, offers female readers a glimpse into the world of male grief. They offer observations such as “In our culture, grief and manhood don’t mix all that well,” and “A man who is grieving may not be very expressive about his emotions.”
I don’t like to give 5 stars to books. It seems people either give 1 or 5, and their reviews lack depth. However, I will give this 5 stars because it worked for me, and it has helped other friends of mine who faced loss. For me, I gave up a great, prestigous job due to stress. I didn’t know how to handle it, and the grief of loss was MUCH bigger than I ever thought it would be. My wife and women at our church would add comforting comments, but it simple wasn’t enough. They did not know the depth of my grief and the personal damage to my self esteem. A parish nurse gave me this book, and it laid out every emotion and coping skill that I was fumbling with to manage the grief of my job loss. Men do grieve much differently than women because their roles and the way they process things is much different than women. This book focuses on those uniquenesses, and does it with brevety and precision. Since I had my loss and recovery, I have becom a hospice volunteer at a large local hospital. I work mainly with men, and this book is like an operator’s manual for a man’s dying process. If you know what a man feels and from where he draws his final pride in life, you can help him in that process. The other great thing about this book is that it does not bog you down with clinical analysis or university studies. It gives you the facts and you can review it speedily whenever you need it. Get this book. You will never be sorry.