Swallowed by a Snake is a book for men and women about the masculine side of healing from loss. Discover new and powerful ways to heal. How the genders differ in their healing. Greater understanding between partners. Examples of successful transformation of loss. New ways to understand your grief. Ways the individual’s loss can impact the entire family. Swallowed by a Snake is meant to be a map and a guide through the experience of loss. It will help you move through the pain of loss and into a place of healing and transformation.
I found out about this book from my pastor. He said it would help and it did. The book offers a map of grief. It shows what it is, the path it takes, what makes it worse or better and importantly what we do to get through it. I needed a map and I got it.
The best thing about this book was that it affirmed the actions that I have been taking after the death and showed me, as a man, how that was actually a way of healing. This book is a breath of fresh air compared to the more feminine you gotta “talk and cry” kinds of books. I had been getting pressure from my wife and others about not dealing with things. This book has helped me explain to them that I am indeed dealing with things but in my own way. This would be a great book for women to help them understand the men they love.
Don’t be confused by all of the references to “This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.” The second edition on this page IS the same as the first edition PLUS an extra section. All of the comments on this page refer to both editions. I was confused about this and checked with the publisher before buying.
This book deals with issues regarding grief and bereavement. The author explores such as as how gender and culture can affect the grieving process.
I really enjoyed reading about the author’s first hand experiences and about the history of the grieving process, especially in Victorian times. The book is written in simple language and easy to understand, without all the complex terms that many psychology-related books use. This made it easier for someone like me, with a minimal background in the study of psychology to understand. I also like that the print was larger and easier on my eyes.
I also like some of the ideas given in the book for ways to express grief. When my husband died, I had started a rock garden and a brick was placed therein as a make-shift memorial. This helped to channel some of my grief.
The only issue I have with the book is how ‘healing through action’ is considered to be ‘masculine’. I know a lot of other women who took up gardening, needlecrafts, etc. after the loss of a spouse, so I would not consider this to be a ‘masculine’ action, rather an action many people use to express grief, regardless of gender. This is my only qualm with this guide, other than that, it is full of some very useful information that can benefit many people experiences issues related to loss.