Suddenly Single After 50

Suddenly Single After 50

Suddenly Single After 50: The Girlfriends’ Guide to Navigating Loss, Restoring Hope, and Rebuilding Your Life

Barbara Ballinger and Margaret Crane






A stressful, protracted divorce. A difficult, painful death of a beloved husband. And suddenly, after age 50, you’re on your own again. Your children have moved out, your parents are aging fast or deceased, your friends’ lives continue onward, seemingly unchanged. Being suddenly single after age 50 can be terrifying, but eventually it can also be liberating. It can be fraught with worry and decisions you’re unprepared initially to make, but it can also be a time to reevaluate, reestablish, and reinvent. It can be financially and emotionally unstable at times, but it can be the start of a new chapter, or the discovery of someone you didn’t know you were, or could become, after the grief of a loss so difficult.



Barbara Ballinger and Margaret Crane wrote such a book and called it Suddenly Single After 50: The Girlfriends’ Guide to Navigating Loss, Restoring Hope, and Rebuilding Your Life. It could have been called Everything You Always Wanted to Know about Your Newly Single Life After 50, But Were Afraid to Ask…. Suddenly Single [is] riveting. It is funny, wise, and practical, and it is written with a lot of heart…. The self-help parts were both quirky and satisfying. They mostly took the form of lists of hard-earned wisdom scattered throughout the book. These weren’t boring, predictable listicles, but personal and thoughtful observations…. [L]ifelong single people who read Suddenly Single will feel proud of themselves, never having realized that they deserve special credit for all that they’ve accomplished in their lives. (Psych Central)

The book itself is part self-help, part-memoir, though the authors carefully meld other people’s stories into the mix, along with advice from therapists, financial planners, attorneys and physicians. The result is highly readable, very informative and in some cases, pretty darn funny…. [Suddenly Single After 50] is chock-full of colorful anecdotes and useful advice. (St. Louis Jewish Light)

Suddenly single in mid-life if that’s not what you had planned, can be shocking, and this book demonstrates how you can make life work after you find yourself single without warning. One of the authors became single after divorce, and the other after widowhood. As with so many of these books, if you don’t know where to begin, it’s a place to start if only a beginning. The authors have been there and done that, and honestly, calmly, compassionately, share their authentic experiences in a way that may help the next person enduring the same situation deal with it a little better. Suddenly Single After 50 won’t solve a divorce or a widow’s problems, but it will make them feel a little less confused and alone, and will help them figure out a few first steps to get back on their feet…. I would recommend it to someone in distress who needs a boost. (The Advice Sisters: Beauty, Fashion, Lifestyle, Trend, Advice)

[Suddenly Single After 50 is] much more personal than you [would] expect. (Head Butler)

Suddenly Single After 50 is witty, poignant, and chock full of solid advice garnered through personal experience. (Forever Young)

Suddenly Single After 50 is an engaging, funny, and honest tale of two women’s sudden entrée into single life, one after divorce and the other after widowhood. Barbara Ballinger and Margaret Crane offer plenty of practical advice along with their stories. The authors have tons of insight and a lot of heart. (Bella DePaulo, PhD, author of How We Live Now: Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century and Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After)

Losing a spouse through death or divorce is one of the most devastating events women face in their 50s, 60s, and beyond. Suddenly Single After 50 provides savvy, brutally honest, and good humored advice to women who have reluctantly joined the sorority of singlehood. With lively writing and practical tips on everything from on-line dating to hiring a good tax accountant, Barbara Ballinger and Margaret Crane provide a roadmap for starting over and discovering unexpected joys after long-term marriages end. (Deborah Carr, professor of Sociology, Rutgers University; Editor-in-Chief, Journal of Gerontology: Social Sciences (2015-18))

Suddenly Single After 50 is a must read for anyone who has lost a long time spouse. Neither Barbara nor Margaret ever thought they’d be single at this time in their life. Their stories of surviving loss and grief, figuring out how old friends still fit into their lives, trying to find love again, dealing with aging parents, will make you laugh and cry. This book is like having a girlfriend right there with you who has felt your pain and gives you hope that one day all will be different but ok again. (Lisa Copeland, Dating Coach for Women over 50 at

“Oh no, no,” I screamed as I heard the horrific and shocking news of my husband’s untimely death. At age 46, in less than a minute, I became a widow. Suddenly Single After 50 answers your most important question, “What am I going to do now?” Written with wit and honesty, this book guides you through the trials and tribulations of being single after 50. You will acquire knowledge on how to embrace your personal situation and become the heroine of your new life story. Trust me, I know, darlings!(Susan (Honey) Good, founder of; weekly contributor to the Huffington Post and the Sun Times Network)



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June 21, 2017